- April 7, 2017
- Posted by: Dr. Elise Cohen Ho
- Category: Community & Friendship
Today, I offer Relationship Reflections. Relationships such as family, friends or others can be so fascinating.
Accordingly, Relationship Reflections would be equally as fascinating.
Think about it? What was the very first thing that popped into your mind when you saw that I would be offering family reflections?
The one thought, or gesture, that was just automatic?
For some of us that is a wonderful thought but for some of us it is a gesture that is less than polite.
I think about relationships very often. I think about the relationships that I have developed and I think of the relationships to which I was introduced.
A great relationship can be warm and fuzzy but a bad one can be cold and heartless. It can be disappointing or uplifting. Arguably, relationships can be selfish, selfless or somewhere in between.
It hurts us when people do not act towards us the way that we believe they should. As well, it hurts to watch the people we care about act towards others in a manner that we do not think is appropriate. We are pained when others act towards our loved ones in a hurtful manner. We feel sorrow when we act toward our loved ones in anger rather than joy.
What can we do about any of this?
One thing that we can do is be honest about our feelings. In my opinion, this is something to be very careful with for it is not always beneficial to share our feelings. Sometimes it is hurtful and provides no good outcome. I think the very first step is to reflect on the situation and be truthful with ourselves. Ask yourself some important questions.
- Did I see this behavior in a realistic way?
- Was my reaction to it appropriate for the circumstances?
- Will I make the situation better, or worse, by confronting it?
- Do I want to confront this situation? Is this even my situation to confront?
Be well and be happy!
DISCLAIMER: Please note that this is a compilation of many different situations and no one related to me should get their panties in a bunch worrying about whether, or not, this is about them. I am not saying that you are free and clear, but it is really uncomfortable to have your panties in a bunch so you may want to avoid it. If you think you recognize yourself then change your behavior.