- June 24, 2017
- Posted by: Dr. Elise Cohen Ho
- Category: Parenting & Family, UWP Blog
A Pledge To My Children
By Lucy At Home
To my two precious children, I pledge to see the good in you.
I will look for opportunities to compliment you and pat you on the back.
Every effort will be made to notice you and to notice who you are becoming.
I know that, like other children, you thrive on attention.
You love to show me your crafty creations and include me in your make-believe games. You want me to notice you.
As a parent if I notice you it makes you feel valuable, included, appreciated, and loved.
I’m sorry that there are times when I can’t take the time to fully appreciate this.
I am doing my best. I am fighting so hard to lavish you with my time and energy. There are so many external things that need my attention, but you are my focus – you are the one that I long to be with.
I want you to know, all day and every day, that you deserve my time and attention. You are intrinsically valuable.
I am so proud of you. I don’t tell you that enough. Sometimes it feels like I just say ‘no’ all the time. My goal is to change that. I want to be positive. I want to encourage you.
There is so much good in you and I want to celebrate that.
When you say please, I will acknowledge your beautiful manners. When you work hard to accomplish something, I will let you know I’ve clocked it. Each time you look out for each other and help each other, I will tell you what kind sisters you are.
In a world that tells you you’re not good enough (too fat, too ambitious, too sensitive, too loud, too headstrong, too shy), I will be the constant, steady voice telling you that they are wrong.
When your confidence is low, and you feel wholly unlovely, I will illuminate your gifts and value.
I don’t care if you’re the fastest or the most clever or the funniest or the strongest.
As your parent, I just want you to be you, and to be confident in the good, kind, honest person that you are.
I see the good in you and I will seek to catch you being good. I know that valuing these things in you now will nurture them and produce more positive behaviours in the future. It will encourage you to keep developing these skills and cause these kindness muscles to grow and grow until they are second nature.
I can already see the seeds of loveliness in you.
I see the way that you befriend the child who is alone, the care that you use when tending the garden, the smiles that you flash to cheer people up. My job is to water that seed – to help it to grow and to encourage it to flourish.
I’m not saying you’re perfect. I don’t expect you to be.
I want you to value yourself; to be confident in the contribution that you can (and are) making to the world.
There will be plenty of people and plenty of situations that will seek to tear you down. You won’t get any of that from me.
I am your mummy; your biggest cheerleader. I’m the one who knows you exactly as you are, inside and out, and who loves you.
And so, once again, I pledge to see the good in you, my two precious children… xxx
Please note that none of these photos are of Lucy and her children. Lucy has made the choice to keep her kids images off of the internet for as long as she can. Additionally, no one in her “real life” circle even knows that she has the Lucy At Home blog.
Lucy, 30, is a stay at home mummy and has two little girls. She is passionate about highlighting the positive power of parenting (despite the frustrations and difficulties), and blogs about it over at https://lucyathome.co.uk None of us are perfect parents, but what we do makes a real difference in our kids’ lives – let’s encourage and inspire each other!
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