- January 21, 2014
- Posted by: Dr. Elise Cohen Ho
- Category: Self Discovery
The decisions we make can cause us to feel as if we are on top of the world or the bottom of the barrel.
They can cause us to feel as if we missed out on something fabulous or as if we are on FIRE!
The right decisions rock you to your core and allow you to fully step into your POWER!
However, the decision that was not quite right also can rock you to your core. It is how you react to the less than perfect outcome that can make all of the difference.
Spencer Greenberg, founder of Clearer Thinking, states that identifying our mistakes, and then learning from them, is one of the most effective ways for us to grow as individuals. Mistakes are often viewed in a negative light, but they present huge opportunities for self-improvement. Clearer Thinking offers a program called Decision Academy that actually offers FREE training to help you to “hone your reasoning and improve your decision-making.”
I know that it can be difficult. In my life, I have made many life altering decisions from choosing to graduate from high school at 15 years old, going on to University, becoming a wife and later a mom, to making various career choices along the way. Even now, I am still making these types of decisions… I mean seriously, I really am!
I have chosen to further my education and earn more Health & Wellness certifications than any person could possibly need and to bring my education even further by studying at the doctoral levels (PhD Natural Medicine/Naturopathic Psychology and Doctor of Naturopathy). I made this decision while in my 40′s!
The answer for me was simple, to be accepted into these programs, to be able to study that which I find so fascinating and to earn these advanced degrees (you know, because one was not enough) absolutely makes my heart sing!
I love when my heart sings!
Of course, with the simple truth also came some complicated questions.
I am a writer and even when beginning my advanced studies already had a growing practice and so I worried, “Can I do both?”
I am a mother, a mother who made the decision many years ago to be a SAHM… granted I did morph into a WAHM and eventually a mom who worked outside the home…this was bringing things to a whole new level. While it is true that the kids are older (13, 15, 17 at the time) and quite self sufficient, I wondered if that really meant that they needed me any less.
I am a wife and in that I asked myself, “Is he really good with all of this?” He states that we will work everything out and that we can handle it but I have my doubts. I am Mom, they need me!
But then I take a step back and think about… The Decisions We Make.
Would I be having these same thoughts and feelings if I were the Dad? Perhaps…
Do I not deserve to be my own person and nourish that which excites me? ABSOLUTELY!
Can we handle it? I suppose…we have handled so many other things before. What is a mere thing of having three, or four, of us in college at the same time?
Oh, I know it is potentially very expensive. A moderate budget is $25,000 to $50,000 per student according to www.collegedata.com. There are millions of scholarships available according to scholarships.com. This may provide some assistance and is definitely worth looking into. However, you cannot make decisions based on the best case scenario and therefore we must assume that all education will be completely our responsibility.
Of course the upside is an increase in opportunities and income potential. Burleson Consulting states an increased income potential of $900,000 for those that graduate with a bachelor’s degree over stopping at high school graduation with the differentiation increasing exponentially as the degree becomes more advanced.
In my case, I decided to trust the universe and I leaped while hoping for the best.
It has been amazing.
Have there been difficulties? Absolutely!
Has it been terrific? Yes, indeed.
Everyone has handled it. The kids have come to realize exactly how I managed to graduate from high school at 15 and earn my first degree by age 17. We have studied together and waited for test grades together. My husband and my kids have stepped up and worked “it out.” Perhaps they have not done so in the exact way that I would have, but they have. Giving up some control was an important part of the process.
I did not allow my fears to hold me back and now I am a better person for it.
Through the years I have followed the spirit inside of me to make decisions, easy and hard. She has guided me well but every decision was not correct. In some of these decisions I had to dig deep and look for the lesson but yet it was still not a mistake. I love the decisions that were spot on even more, but any decision which propels you forward, whether from immediate success or learning a lesson, is always a positive.
Are your fears holding you back?
What are your life lessons?
I would love to know how you are doing and what types of decisions you are making. Please reach out and also let me know if you decide to try Decision Academy. I would very much like to hear about your experience.