- June 7, 2017
- Posted by: Dr. Elise Cohen Ho
- Category: Parenting & Family, UWP Blog
What can we learn from Dad?
Has that question sunk in?
Do you already have a list a mile long of what you can learn from your dad or the father of your kids?
Well, if not then let me help you out.
Dad is not afraid to get dirty. Dad will get down on the ground, roll around in leaves and get down in the mud. Case in point, one of my son’s wanted to participate in Camp Pendleton’s World Famous Mud Run which is a 10K muddy mess of fun, sun and major bonding. My husband strapped on his sneakers and got ready to get dirty. They had a great time and built a wonderful memory.
Lesson: Do not be afraid to get dirty.
Dad knows that chilling out is part of the process. He will watch TV, relax and otherwise “sit around” because he knows it is OK.
Lesson: Give yourself permission to slow down and relax. All of the chores and responsibilities will still be there.
Dad knows that speaking to the kids about real life problems is part of growing up. He knows that they do not always need to be coddled and that they can handle it.
Lesson: Allow those babies to grow up, they will anyway.
Dad can get MAD but then he gets over it. He does not stew over annoyances. He states it and is mad but then moves on.
Lesson: Do not be afraid to say what you are angry over but do let it go once you do.
Bonus Lesson: Dad generally needs some time alone to get over his annoyance, give him the time that he needs.
Dad is not afraid to be “rough and tumble” while playing. He is not worried that the children will break. He knows this is another way that he shows his love to the children while just having fun.
Lesson: Do not be afraid that the kids will break but rather enjoy every moment as they are fleeting.
Dad does not believe that the clothing needs to be perfect. Nor does he believe that the hair, or even the food, needs to be perfect. He wants to enjoy living and does get the job done but does so in a very flexible way.
Lesson: Enjoy some flexibility in life. You may discover something that you never would have otherwise.
- My hubby has taught me to appreciate everything in life because it does go fast.
- He has taught me to allow he and the children to have their own relationships just as I have my own relationship with each of our three children.
- He has taught me to appreciate my in-laws (I did just say that) as they have raised a man who cares so deeply for his family and will do just about anything to make sure that we are happy and taken care of.
What can you learn from the father of your children? What have you learned from your own father?