- May 14, 2016
- Posted by: Dr. Elise Cohen Ho
- Category: Love & Romance
You all will love Rebecca. She is so much fun. This is great advice for any day!
Read on and enjoy. Then take your seduction knowledge and enjoy some more.
I used to think that seduction was all about g-strings and spanking or wearing an uncomfortable push up bra and fake tan (I am a pale redhead).
Working and training to be a professional dancer gave me a lot of projections about what was and wasn’t sex.
Skin is sexy, abs are sexy, tan is sexy, blonde is sexy, slapping and booty shaking is sexy. Who wants to be this if this is sexy? I felt as if I was acting. I sucked at it.
To me what was sexy was slowness, teasing, softness, caressing, circling, teasing and playing with both mine and my lover’s body. That thought wasn’t in line with this version of sexy. So I practiced, I slapped the floor, glared sexily and piled on the fake tan. I was just good enough. It didn’t feel great but it got me the job.
It wasn’t till I was a professional dancer working on a cruise ship that I realized what I had was valuable. We were doing a Britney Spears number and I was so sick of being like everyone else. So I danced for me and my boyfriend.
I danced how I liked to have sex – and it showed. I was turned on, I had fun, my boyfriend dancing next to me definitely had fun and the whole audience was attuned to my energy. It was a delicious experience for everyone and I realized by me being me I was able to seduce a whole audience.
It wasn’t hard, it was fun and it was also me, which gave me a sense of freedom and space I had never accessed before. At the time I laughed it off and joked when they wanted to use me in the next piece as a bordello mistress. But later when a friend of mine asked me to do a class on sex with him I realized how unusual my sexual energy was and that not everyone knew how to turn it on like I did.
The art of seduction is not about blindfolds and whips it’s about allowing yourself to be you without judgment. It’s about not being afraid to be all of you. It’s about inviting those that you are with to be the same.
When I am on a date with someone I love to dress up my body. However, I don’t automatically go putting on my smoky eye and miniskirt. I’ll start with my body. I’ll actually ask it “Hey body what would you like to wear that would create a delicious energy?” I’ve gone out on dates in pearls, ballet flats, barely any make up and a ponytail I wore all day. I have also gone out on dates in sky high heels.
I don’t have a point of view about what I wear because I know my body is a lot smarter than me. My body knows what it would like to create. It’s not how you physically look. Instead it is about the energy of it. I’ve put on weird outfits like a bright blue skinny jeans and said “Okay body, whatever you say.” And gotten three wolf whistles out of cars walking down the street.
The art of seduction starts with the energy of you being you in your body. You can start by asking your body what it desires.
Ask your body questions like:
What would you like to eat?
What would you like to wear?
Who would you like to kiss?
Would this choice create what you want?
If it feels delicious choose it. If not then ask another question.
What would asking your body’s awareness create in your life?
Rebecca is a coach for millenials (and all those millennial minded), a writer, speaker and Access Consciousness® facilitator. She teaches classes on creating new realities with sex around the world called 69 Shades of Pleasure. She is the co-author of a book by the same name. Rebecca lives to see the impossible happen and create change with ease in anyone who is ready for more. Get more of a taste of Rebecca’s work with a free copy of The Big Bad(ass) Book of Judgment at rebeccahulse.com